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Lucy Nicolaysen, BACP

Based in the UK Online sessions

Experienced counsellor offering practical, relationship-focused support

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Years in practice
6
Registration
BACP
Languages
English
Focus
Relationship issues
Focus
Family conflicts
Focus
Trauma and abuse
About

About Lucy

Lucy Nicolaysen is a counsellor who uses attachment-based and client-centred approaches to help people make sense of painful experiences. She brings six years of practice to work on relationship and parenting concerns. Lucy speaks English and works with clients across the United Kingdom and internationally.

She creates a space where people can talk through what is upsetting them. Sessions are an opportunity to describe feelings, past events and current stresses in plain language.

Background and approach

Speaking about these things often brings relief, fresh understanding and a clearer sense of direction. Lucy often supports people coping with anxiety, depression, grief, trauma and abuse, and struggles with self-esteem or anger. She also works with issues such as addictions, intimacy difficulties, sleep and eating problems, and the strain of caregiving.

Parenting appears among her focus areas and she helps parents think through related stresses and choices. Her approach blends practical thinking with listening. Cognitive behavioural techniques can help with unhelpful thinking and behaviour patterns, while attachment-based ideas look at how relationships shape responses.

Trauma-focused and systemic approaches are used when the history or wider family dynamics are relevant. Lucy aims to help people feel less stuck and more able to make changes. She encourages small, manageable steps and keeps the work focused on the client’s goals.

New clients can expect clear, calm conversations and practical suggestions they can try between sessions.

Focus areas and approaches

What Lucy works with

Everything Lucy lists, in their own terms. Parenting is the reason this directory exists; the rest shows what else Lucy helps people with.

Approaches Lucy lists

Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each counsellor names and does not check training records.

Online support

How attachment, CBT and trauma work online

Attachment-based work focuses on how early and current relationships affect feelings and behaviour. Online sessions use conversations to notice patterns in how people connect and respond, which can help with relationship worries, intimacy issues and parenting strains.

Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) looks at thoughts, feelings and actions and offers practical strategies to change unhelpful habits. In online sessions CBT often includes short exercises, thought records and small behavioural tasks to try between meetings, which can reduce anxiety and improve mood.

Trauma-focused approaches help people process and reduce the hold of past traumatic events. Through careful, paced discussion and grounding techniques, trauma-focused work aims to lessen flashbacks, panic and overwhelming memories so daily life feels more manageable.

Finding the best approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk through options and adapt methods to match a person's goals, preferences and what feels comfortable. This is a collaborative process and plans are reviewed as the work progresses.

Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls are good for face-to-face conversation and visual cues, phone sessions suit those who prefer not to be on camera, live chat is useful for quick check-ins, and text-based messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, caring duties and busy lives, while still getting consistent support from registered or accredited professionals.
Questions

Questions people ask about Lucy

What concerns does Lucy commonly help with?

She supports people with relationship issues, family tensions, trauma and abuse, anger, low self-esteem, stress and anxiety. Other areas include addictions, grief, intimacy difficulties, eating and sleeping problems, depression and parenting challenges.

What is her therapeutic style like?

Her work is listening-led and collaborative, using attachment-based and client-centred ways of working alongside CBT and trauma-focused ideas. She balances talking and practical exercises tailored to each person.

How much experience does she have?

She has six years of experience working with a wide range of emotional and relational concerns, including additional focus areas such as abandonment, attachment issues and caregiver stress.

What professional credential does she hold and where is she based?

She is listed with BACP, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, and practises in the United Kingdom.

Which languages are supported for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English and she is able to work with international clients.

What session formats are available?

Sessions are offered as video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging so clients can choose the format that best fits their routine and needs.

How is cost handled for therapy sessions?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions are provided through a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I begin working with her?

Start by selecting the Start Therapy button and completing a short matching questionnaire. After that you can schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

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